How you can become your own favorite person

How you can become your own favorite personHow you can become your own favorite personOur favorite people. We love them. We look up to them. We laugh loudly with them. And they inspire us. Deeply. But that inspiration falls flat if you dont do anything about it. What better way to honor your favorite people than bydoingsomething to better yourself in honor of their existence.Ive been reflecting on the person I want to be. The person I want to show up as. notlage the person who has done X, Y, and Z, because screw that. I know I can achieve. But who can I BE in the moments can I be the person who inspires someone else? Can I be the person that makes someone feel both deeply loved as they are while encouraging them to expand into mora? Can I be the person that gives back to my community? Can I be the person that stands for herself first, so she can stand for others next? And what will it take to become her?Ive been inspired to become my own favorite person, I said after exploring some meaningful changes Ive made recently in my own life. And I smiled. Because Ive never really thought about that idea. But damn does it feel good to work to get there. Narcissism aside, being your own favorite person just means liking the company you keep. Alone for a day, or alone in your head for a minute, whats it take tolikebeing there with yourself? Whats required of being proud of yourself, of being humbled by yourself, of being in favorof yourself?Sometimes and often, change comes from a place of painful truth. A place of reckoning that maybe youre not where you want to be right now. Or maybe youve been prioritizing other people for too long. Its not fun to be on the knees of your own despair to realize that you dont actually dig this person youre spending all this time with.And when you face any version of that truth, there are a few things that have made a gentle but forceful difference for me Talking less shit. Not engaging in the gossip.And assuming (more goodwill). Its wha t wed hope people who love us would do when were not around. So lets start by doing it for them.And laughing easier. Sometimes loudly. Always freely.Doing the things you said you would do. On time. Even if the only person you promised was yourself.And getting in action on the stuff youve always wanted to do. Like involving yourself in your community. And writing that fiction novel.Facetiming more. Sending voice memos often. And texting less. Because our energy is all of it.And breaking those shitty habits. Acting like you want to attract. And just setting up the dang doctors appointments.Hugging more and holding on longer. Writing intentionally. And letting enthusiasm lead.And panicking less. Breathing with purpose. And letting doubt disappear.Being your own favorite person requires more reading, less scrolling. More understanding, less judgment. More presence, less worry. And more self-compassion for all the moments youre failing, floundering, and just figuring it all out, includin g yourself.And to all my favorite people out there. I want to be this person because of you. Youre my favorite and Im becoming my favorite, too.Thisarticlewas originally posted onMaxieMcCoy.com.